The errors we ingest into our personal identity come from the Holon structures in our villages of origin. The middle class private schooled male former Prime Ministers of Great Britain and Northern Ireland such as Boris Johnson and David Cameron are ignorant of their own narrowed self conception just as Donald Trump is in America. Working class groups are bound to notions of progress that involve them aspiring to be the small minded middle classes who imagine themselves superior as they look down inside the holon upon other lower social groups, using systemically abstracted values as the foundations of their reality. Meantime both working class and middle class male groups look down upon non U genders and races. There is no escaping the holon that limits the mind of those participating in a private life that uses the holon and because of this the ceiling of the mind's I in a native of these holons is systemically limited before the pronoun I begins in a capable embodied human Me~Mind.

The I in the We of our villages tells us we are privileged and have the best of life if we are in sets of people like Boris Johnson and underprivileged if we are in sets of people who are bound to working class lives although strangely even in these groups we can find groups that imagine themselves superior to the Boris Johnson group.

The imprimatur we use to gauge our internal values is founded in the fashion of the day, the time we are born will determine if we can be outwardly honest about our sexual dispositions our capacity and reasoning for choosing a partner or staying in a family that makes us profoundly unhappy for the sake of the next generation.

Although we make sincere promises to love through the time of our life based upon our inner beliefs, we sometimes find ourselves hating the same person we thought we loved this belies the inherent flaws in our adaptations of romantic love. If we built houses where 50% of them lasted only 20% of the time they were meant to we would have serious questions for the builders and if we build marriages using unreliable romantic blocks then we need to ask ourselves as the builders real questions.

We can list endless points of failure where our inner judgements concerning our objects of desire and the realisation of those desires did not yield the satisfaction and we can wonder why we cannot get satisfaction.

The underpinning reason for no satisfaction is our use of linear subject object framing of meaning with feelings, when in fact satisfaction occurs in the present of one time forward lifetime which is a location that exists in a dynamic complexity

Who am I and where do I come from in my embodied Me~Mind, here now. How much can this I in me understand and why is it limited and incapable of love.

The issue of the infinite receptiveness required to authenticate true love, when it alteration finds, belies the hidden thresehold of personal I states in the form of personal pronouns, while a Me~Mind may love a personal I may only yield for love.

Look within and around the evidence of experience is in society and personal experience. What arises as a sometimes perplexing dilemma is caused by the time forward nature of a human life on earth and the fixed hierarchies of sunken values upon which the the personal I depends. Ask loving couples of any gender whose middle class life is up ended by unforeseen financial pressures or the loss of a child, how true the love in their personal I was or how resilient long lifelong commitments to spouses and families last in the face of a passionate desire or winning the lottery, when the cornerstones of love depend upon linear hierarchies it cannot manage life's alterations in emergent flow of new understanding in the present.

The meaning of I in me comes from the We in my village of origin and my sets of participation in the present. My sets of participation in the present come from the We