When my life led me to understand that my mother had been abandoned by my father it became an ideological belief for me that a father should not abandon a mother of his children in penury and purdur?// isolated from family and friends. The very sincerity of the view that fired my commitment made me blind to other important aspects of becoming a father as a result of an unplanned pregnancy.

Fathers teach survival skills from their own experiences if your father was a banker the advice you get may concern mortgages and pensions, if a teacher then adding to betterment of mankind or a tradesman the benefits of trade craft and business or a Philosopher where understanding the roots of knowledge becomes the nature sought upon the pathways of life. What children do not need is somebody who does all of these things intermittently, while transiting from one to the other via iconoclastic intervals where the limitations of the last certain pathway are rasped from their roots with new proofs of rot in the roots making nowhere secure enough to come to adulthood in for the child.

If your father is sincerely just one kind of wrong then you have a target to work with if scattered then the sands of time are experienced as insecure. The sands of time reveal everything in life to be insecure but do we need to experience this while we are in the early stages of our development.